It’s remarkable that two people can observe the actions of another at the same time, yet come away having come to see and believe dramatically different things. Both strong in their conviction of what they saw.
Be cautious to observe without a pretense for what you believe you may see in another’s actions before they even happen. If you were to look only for the negative with bias, you will likely confirm that. If you were to look only for the positive, again with bias, you may easily confirm that bias as well.
Look to observe with a fresh and open perspective. Discover in your observation the reality of their actions. Observation without bias facilitates the opportunity to continue learning and applying what you have learned. Life is much more complex than to only assume and affirm what you once believed to be true.
Other people, as observed in their actions, will learn and adapt as well.
“Every truth has two sides; it is well to look at both, before we commit ourselves to either.” — Aesop —