When asking a question or making an observation of another, aim to learn rather than to judge.
So many times, questions will be asked for the purpose of testing, positioning or judging another. The responses to these questions will be readily assessed and categorized so that they might validate their our own perspective or denounce yours if it isn’t the same.
If it takes someone more than a simple sentence to ask a question, you are likely being shaped and judged on your response. The motive of the question is not to learn..
Aim to ask a question or make an observation for the purpose of learning from another and not to validate yourself and what you believe you already know. With an open mind and without judgment, ask and watch to learn, rather than to judge.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.” — Paulo Coelho —