Developed Character

People will think of you what they will. In one room with three people, each will come to judge the others in the moment and then over time. There many ways to interpret the same demonstrations of your character.

Over time, the real sense of your character becomes more obvious to others. A pattern of your behavior shapes the judgment of others. A fraud is quickly detected by your words and actions. A genuine person to be respected is as easily detected and validated as well.

Be aware that you can always act as you want in the moment. From each example you display though, others from a perspective of your character. You determine their impression over time by how you interact and treat others. Character is even more obvious in the midst of a challenge.

Character is for an eternity, build yours to succeed over time. Be your authentic and genuine self, aiming to learn from each scenario and applied next into the other. Be caring to know that your character is from your demonstrated actions and concern for others in all occasions.

“Good character is not formed in a week or a month. It is created little by little, day by day. Protracted and patient effort is needed to develop character.” — Heraclitus —

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Optimism

A glass half full or half empty? How you approach a matter in life relies a great deal on whether you began with a positive or negative mindset. If you perceive it to be half full, you will have more determination to find the better way. You will learn and apply more toward the resolution, considering more options with a resolve to grow.

From the mindset to succeed, the optimist greatly outperforms the pessimist. To start from “this will never work,” will essentially assure that you would never even have tried. To start from “we can figure this out,” will guarantee that you will grow at a minimum.

There may even be a bit of ignorance for the optimistic point of view, but this is what may afford them more opportunities to succeed. The positive nature of approach overshadows the negative and the open effort is attempted with resolve.

Find a way to win with optimism. Your highest level of success and the best lessons learned would have never been discovered without it.

“Pessimists are usually right and optimists are usually wrong, but all great changes have been accomplished by optimists.” — Thomas Friedman —

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Intuition

To become exceptional with anything, it requires us to continue learning. There is no place to stop your intense focus with a specific area of knowledge and applied experiences of that knowledge on a learning course. If you settle to hold off at any point, you will have missed opportunities to have learned again.

Determine to sustain your learning through perpetual intuition. Create your own path to learn rather than follow another’s. Have the self-confidence and self-awareness to remain curious to find a better way and then another. Most learners will lose their sense of intuition and will stop or pause learning nowhere near to an exceptional contribution level when there is always more to learn. Learn and apply again and again with what you are learning. Let perpetual intuition be your guide.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” — Albert Einstein —

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Grace

Grace is an uncommon attribute we should all aim to display more of. To approach life with grace means to me that you are engaged fully to learn from all of your experiences. Each positive and negative experience that we come across are deemed as meaningful, in that we grow from each of them. Humility is sustained with success and confidence is upheld with failure.

Grace is a distinguished trait as we relate with others. A person of grace never walks alone. To smile within adversity demonstrates both a calmness of thought and a persistence to grow with one another. There is a clear and decisive purpose that is observable in the character this person displays. Nothing shakes their approach. They are in authentic pursuit of something better, something genuine, and by the end, something more meaningful.

A person of grace is never perfect, but they consistently direct their lives to continuously learn toward mastery for their purpose with others. Simple or complex, grace allows them to always approach the highs and the lows in the same fashion. The graceful make themselves.

“Courage is grace under pressure.” — Ernest Hemingway —

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Contrast

We may not want it, but a contrast in our lives serves us well as we continue learning. A difference of opinion or perspective on a matter needn’t be a negative thing. If we all thought the exact same way with everything, we would probably be wrong.

From an open-minded dialogue, we can discover the difference and progress from knowing what the other has to share. If we hesitate to hear, we default to only what we know to that point. If we force others to hear us, we would rarely be heard ourselves.

We have the opportunity in life to offer value into the conversations that people come to learn from. If there is contrast between the two, there is likely more to learn. In a rational dialogue, we could all progress. In an irrational approach, neither will move from what they believe to be true.

It’s your choice. Engage with those that will mutually engage with you to learn. Offer your insights and perspective from your current level of experience. If they are closed to this, don’t force it. There may be another opportunity down the road, but rushing over others generally closes the minds of both.

Aim to progress with others to arrive at the next iterations of what both would come to believe. Avoid the urge to determine what others need to be thinking and doing. In most circumstances, they would only progress for themselves along with you if it was from their determination and not yours. Contrast is a good thing in learning.

“Put light against light – you have nothing. Put dark against dark – you have nothing. It’s the contrast of light and dark that give each other meaning.” — Bob Ross —

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Static?

When a cell phone call goes dead or a television channel would turn to static, what is your response? Hopefully it is not to continue observing nothing and you would instead opt to reconnect.

As you aim to learn and grow in life, we may at times prefer the static over the harsher stimulus we might come across by staying connected. Static is easy and repetitive, almost luring you to hold still rather than continuing to learn through life. A constant barrage of noise can become overwhelming though, having us wanting us to again turn it all off.

As with most things, finding a balance between stifling noises and boring static is the key. There is a time to fully engage and a time to back it down a bit. Your life’s story and your significance as a contributor will be determined by the balance you temper. In the midst of navigating between the two, there is an ultimate path for your success. By applied learning practice, you will discover the better way. Choose to direct yourself wisely and conscientiously rather than simply remain to roam.

“That which is static and repetitive is boring. That which is dynamic and random is confusing. In between lies art.” — John Locke —

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Controversy

Some will run to look for and engage with others in controversy, while others will shy away. If the point of controversy is to together discover a better way, it is appropriate to engage. If the point is to offend the other idiots that just don’t get it, it would only be a waste of time.

As is the case with most interactions, those with a closed mind are poor participants. They will become upset if others wouldn’t agree. They would be so sure that they are right that they couldn’t accept another way. They are not looking for the truth, they are only looking to be right.

The truth is better discovered among many minds searching for the right questions before they would together apply the right answers to find the best solution. Controversy of thought, process and actions isn’t a bad thing among open minds seeking to learn. It however will become rather futile when a closed mind wouldn’t interact.

“In controversy the instant we feel anger we have already ceased striving for the truth, and have begun striving for ourselves.” — Buddha —

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Step In

Of course some things are harder for us to do than others. Most things that are easy or just seem to happen for us in good fate will bring no value for us in terms of our growth. Just as a muscle needs to be strained to sustain and to grow, the challenges of our lives will bring us a greater and repeatable value.

In your persistence to continue learning, you will discover that what you are learning will bring you to the better way. A few sacrifices to overcome adversities, rather than hope to walk away or around them, brings wisdom and depth to future decisions as well. From learning through the harder lessons you step into, growth and a greater significance of contribution will result.

If you are presented the opportunity to accept a new challenge, step in to grow from it. Once we would step away from the challenges, we would begin to atrophy like the unused muscle. We use it for growth or lose it. Don’t complain about difficulties, frame in your mind each of them as a means to simplify for yourself and others down the line.

“Do what is easy and your life will be hard. Do what is hard and your life will be easy.” — Les Brown —

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A Version

It is hard to discern what is the absolute truth. There are written versions of the truth and observations of spoken “influencers” to be found everywhere. We might use these versions to confirm or debunk into formulation of our current perspective, opinion and/or position on a matter. From this process, we make decisions that will directly impact our lives. Some for better and some for worse, regardless of the version we tie into.

Before you would act yourself or speak out to influence others from your version, be certain that you are at least in search of the absolute truth. Know that your character is sound and that you are learning from experience what might be closer to the absolute truth. The truth is a single fact, but one that is difficult and complex to discover. Until a fact is known for certain, be conscientious of the version you are pursuing to find it for yourself. Others will have their course and perspectives, but remain primarily concerned with your own journey. Should you guide others that rely upon you for their success, affirm that they too should also do the same.

We may never discover the absolute truth, to know most things as absolute fact. To learn and to live as one that is aiming to discover it, rather than settling for a version of it, is a life for a continuous learner. A continuous learner that aspires to do the right thing each time in the moment rather than promote to prove themselves right from their version amongst others. Learn again from the reality of your experiences to set and re-set your course. Share only what you know to be a fact, or very near to a fact from your owned and personally accountable experiences.

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” — Marcus Aurelius —

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Doubt

As with most things, a balance of doubt is required. A little doubt in our minds in consideration of our capabilities is a good thing. Too much doubt can become oppressive.

If we first pause to consider to learn a best way, we wouldn’t simply rush in to act. Doubt presents the opportunity we generally require to process and learn before we would act.

If the balance of doubt is overwhelmingly negative, we often won’t approach to act at all. When full of doubt, the mind is closed to learning and any guidance we might be receptive to so that we would proceed.

We are never to be too sure of ourselves and never to be locked up with the fear of failure. Discern for yourself a balance to proactively open the mind to learning and leading a course for yourself within the doubts you may have. When in doubt, consider the opinion and guidance of others.

“Self-belief does not necessarily ensure success, but self-disbelief assuredly spawns failure.” — Albert Bandura —

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