Conflict

Each of us needs to have the capacity to hear the things we might not want to hear when a new or different perspective is offered. To be open to listening and to changing is a definitive strength as we continue learning.

There are many opportunities and audiences where we may be more open than not to variant perspectives from others. There is certainly one audience where I will overtly close my mind at once to walk away to learn another day or another way. Life is too short to argue with another only seeking to be right.

Learning for me is a sharing experience. With one seeking to dominate another’s thought only to affirm their own point of view, there is no room for my learning. Be pleasant, but note that there is no need to participate.

“The first rule of handling conflict is don’t hang around people who are constantly engaging in conflict.” — Naval Ravikant —

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Enough

Amid all the blessings that we have to be thankful for, there is the probability that some of us would want even more. More of something that we surely have enough of. More of a free pass to not to have to endure any new challenges. More, more, more.

From a humble and genuine basis of gratitude rather than greed, enough is surely enough. What we already have is the greatest of blessings. Give thanks today and every day as the basis of gratitude as a mindset.

From gratitude, all things will grow and evolve with us and our relationships will prosper. From greed, there will never be enough.

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things that you only hoped for.” — Epicurus —

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Mastery

To truly master something comes at a cost. There is a challenge for a person to grow across multiple facets of a thing to become exceptional and consistent with it. There is an investment of time with intense focus applied over and over again. This is why so few earn their way to the highest levels of mastery.

In the assessment of your life, we are generally good, bad or average at most things. To go beyond good, we must become determined to learn our way. There must be reinforcement derived to continue working away at it. With a clear purpose and a discerning focus, each of us could become a master with one or more things. Nothing would get in our way. We would see reality objectively and we would work beyond challenges to generate consistent progress.

Choose to become a master at one thing or another and you will benefit greatly. People will seek you out for your specialized talent. You will add to the valued contributions offered with others. Gratification will follow as you grow and share your mastery with others.

To be a master is worth the purposeful lifetime journey. Play with great curiosity and practice with great discipline to apply yourself. Imagine first and then aim to continue learning by applying yourself for a greater good that you would always be remembered for.

“The playing adult steps sideward into another reality; the playing child advances forward to new stages of mastery.” — Erik Eriksen —

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Possible?

Most anyone can look at a situation and tell you what is wrong. Many are really good at it and even better well after the time it would have been useful. They engage to do so regularly and then pause at that point. Identifying what is wrong is a common determination, doing something to remediate and improve it is much more rare.

From the accurate depiction of a complex problem, think more of the next and most feasible solution and then the one after that. Think in greater terms of not only what would address the problem, but then evolve to another path for an even greater outcome. This is the basis of persistence that extends the value derived from an earlier solution into the next and the one after that. More of an evolution of growth rather than a pattern of break and fix.

Draw in others with you to go well beyond the identification of a broken thing. From your connected experiences and a concerted passion to continue learning, a greater resolution can be born. There is always a greater value to be discovered together. As an applied learner, aim to go well beyond, “this is broken.”

“Ask what’s possible, not what’s wrong. Keep asking.” — Margaret Wheatley —

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Willing?

Each of us has the unique capacity to learn. We come across subjects that interest us and we are motivated to learn more on that matter. When we find subject matter we are less interested in, we often fail to be motivated enough to learn more about it. Each of us has a greater capacity to learn that what we currently and comfortably focus on.

If it would benefit you greatly to learn more about managing your personal finances, wouldn’t you be motivated to dive in to learn more? For some, the motivation is lacking and the opportunity is never sought. For others, they realize the value to be obtained from learning and become act from this, despite a lower level of motivation at the onset.

At times, we will need to prioritize learning toward the value derived over what might interest you more and motivate you to dig in with. If it is in our best interest, we should find a way. Start before you might be motivated based on the value of a subject learned rather than simply pursuing what is interesting or fun to learn.

“The capacity to learn is a gift; the ability to learn is a skill; the willingness to learn is a choice.” — Brian Hebert —

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Controversy

Controversy is a part of life. What you do amidst it has a great effect of your continual learning practice. We believe what we believe in the moment from our lived experiences and others from theirs.

For some of our beliefs, we will stand up against the conflicting thoughts of another. This will generally create a controversy. How would you act or react in the moment? A calm and open mind is the best approach for us to act from. A reaction is typically filled with emotion and a less rationale approach. A planned and discerning analysis of the situation will prepare us to act for optimal learning.

If the other is locked into their thoughts, little will be learned by another. To even engage with another’s rogue declaration of being right over any other thought is a waste of time for both. If the other would pause to express themselves and listen to your experiences, both have the opportunity to learn.

In the end, set your course first to learn from controversy as the opportunities present themselves. If there is nothing to be learned, move on with your current best course of actions. With an open mind and sound tactics centered on shared learning, controversy isn’t all that difficult to deal with. Drive on above the moments of controversy.

“Controversy equalizes fools and wise men in the same way – and the fools know it.” — Oliver Wendall Holmes —

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Sacrifice

Often, with a sacrifice being made on our part, the outcomes of our efforts are much greater. There is progress made from the extra giving that we provide. This is true not only for how it helps others to succeed, but also from the satisfaction we come to feel because we made the sacrifice.

It would always be easier to be selfish and to not give that extra little bit of effort to improve. To sit back with hesitation, knowing that you would have to do more as a sacrifice, will eventually lead to our own dissatisfaction. A committed act of sacrifice at the right moment perpetuates ourselves and those around us. The act may never be recognized, but we shouldn’t sacrifice for the benefit of praise, but rather for self-satisfaction.

If none of us would make sacrifices, each would come to be deterred from success by the other. There are relationships among the acts that people would or would not engage with for one another. For a better way, each must take it upon themselves to simply be kind, conscientious and to have engaged for the benefit of others.

A sacrifice isn’t a great feat on our part, it’s simply the right thing to do. Happiness begins and ends from the relationships we engage to positively effect from our acts. Do the right thing to make a sacrifice here and there and you will prosper in many ways. Set the stage for others to learn and to excel as well.

“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, What are you doing for others.” — Martin Luther King —

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Sources

Parents are the first source of learning for a child. If the child were only to follow that one source for a lifetime, they would fall woefully short of their potential. There is much more for a person to learn for themselves amid a variety of sources. This is where personal discovery adds to the value of what is learned.

For each to be a unique and contributing learner, we should seek multiple points of view on a matter. Because one trusted source or even a large group of people would believe one thing, wouldn’t inherently make it to be true for an eternity. As an active and applied learner, variety promotes an evolution through your own experiences.

A practice of application over time will enhance the personal base of knowledge. You would have lived it rather than simply heard or read about it from one source or one person. There is always room for a better approach to a better answer. From owned experiences amid the variety of resources, we grow from consideration of choice and the outcomes they produce. Wisdom builds amid variety over one static and repetitive approach.

“We need a variety of input and influences and voices. You cannot get all the answers to life and business from one person or one source.” — Jim Rohn —

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Emotions

Emotions are the greatest advantage in our learning and thinking process if we would frame within our minds to utilize them correctly. Some hope to overtly control them to have no influence at all, but this rarely happens. Some hope to avoid them at all costs and this generally leads to a failure to engage at all. Your best approach is to feature the natural occurrence of emotions to sharpen your perspective and to make your best choices from them.

Emotions separate and individualize us as human beings. They can serve to motivate us for a greater good. In the simplest of examples, music moves me to a much better workout. A team of athletes will be prepared by a great coach prior to a contest with a motivational message. A timely reflection before a big meeting will promote us to succeed. Emotion is required to be rationally at our best.

Knowing that emotions are the spice of life and the pathway to successful learning experiences and growth, aim to utilize their natural energy amid structured patterns to help yourself. Be calm when necessary and aroused the same. Be excitable and responsive to what moves you. Comprehend the pulls from your emotions to focus on what matters the most and they will move you toward a greater good. When you would falter, you learn for the next application for greater success.

“What you think, you become. What you feel you attract. What you imagine, you create.” — Buddha —

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Know

If we authentically aim to learn more, we will eventually come to do so. If, on the other hand, we fail to dig in, we would only pass through challenging scenarios to merely follow the beliefs of others. With no personal investment in the learning process, we wouldn’t learn and adapt for ourselves.

We have the choice. The choice to pursue to learn by doing, to advocate for ourselves and to discover by our own comprehension what is best. Under what circumstances would you choose not to engage to learn? Under what conditions are we fine with simply doing what we see other people doing for themselves?

Make the choice to know for yourself in important matters.

“There are two different types of people in the world, those who want to know and those who want to believe.” — Friedrich Nietzsche —

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